4 Skills to Build Your CNM Relationship

So, you're thinking about a consensually non-monogamous relationship?

Here are 4-Fundamental skills that you will need to start (and continue) your journey!

1. Knowledge: Having a base knowledge of non-monogamy is a good place to start. Anyone considering this relationship structure should first educate themselves about concepts such as types of CNM relationships (Ex: Polyamory, swinging, relationship anarchy, open-table polyamory, etc), consent, communication, new relationship energy, and more. Dive in and dive deep! Find polyam content creators to follow, read books, listen to podcasts, and hire a coach or other professional that is well versed in diverse relationship structures that can help you navigate this new territory.

2. Self-reflection: During this time of discovery, self-reflection is key. As you take in new information and challenge your previously held beliefs that have been shaped by mononormativity, really think about how you show up in relationships. What you want from your relationships? Why you may want to explore a CNM relationship and what you hope to gain from the experience? CNM can offer sexual variety, spiritual growth, new connections, and so much more. What are you wanting from this jourey? What are you open to?

3. Communication: Communication is key in any relationship, but this tends to be a hallmark of CNM/polyam relationships. You have to communicate often and you have to communicate well. Your communication skills will be challenged more than they ever have before, but they will also grow and expand far beyond what you ever thought possible.

4. Continued learning: Lastly, you must be open to continued growth and learning, because with each new relationship brings new challenges. Every connection is a different dynamic and with that a new opportunity to expand on yourself and your knowledge. Things will change and evolve and in order to be successful, you yourself must evolve as well.